We've all had those days where we wished there was more hours in the day. We've had so much to do and not able to accomplish everything on that to-do list. Well, that's how the last month has been for me. I haven't been able to accomplish anything on my list. The most important thing was to find time to sit down and write. Finally, today is the day that I can do this.
Incoming message: Good mornin sexy! Hope u had a great nite. I love you! ;)
Response: Good morning handsome. Every time I tried textin you my phone rung. I love you baby. Last nite was bad. I wasn't with you! Had to sleep in this big bed all alone.
Incoming message: Aw. Im still glad u had company tho.
Response: I'm not. Jon trips when he's been drinking.
Incoming message: How many peeps u met so far on the NET??
Response: What?
Response: What are you talking about?
Response: Talk to me, what's going on?
Incoming message: My sister is here. I can't talk but it's ok. I'm not mad.
Response: So now you're not speaking at all?
Incoming message: Talkin with sis. Y would I stop speaking 2 u?? Just cuz u cruisin on the NET??
Sam and Greg were introduced to each other well over three months ago through a mutual friend, the Internet. Sam was coming to visit the area Greg lived in and was looking for someone to show him around. Unfornately, they didn't get to meet that weekend; however, they did speak on the telephone for hours. The following week, Greg took a drive to visit Sam two hours away. This was the beginning fo their relationship as it's known today. For three months now, they have been dating exclusively. Talking to each other every day outside of the Internet. Every morning, they send text messages and tell each other how much they love one another. LOL, they can't go to sleep without saying it.
A few weeks ago, Greg felt like he was being ignored by the love of his life. He tried telling him, but whenever he did, Sam told him that he wasn't and there was nothing to worry about. Greg, still feeling ignored and wanting someone to talk to went back to where he felt comfortable, the Internet. Greg kept his profile active so he was able to locate friends that he's been talking to for years. Greg never had a desire to meet any of these guys online, but he would flirt with a few that found him attractive. IT WAS FUN! Greg didn't see any harm in what he was doing, but Sam apparently did.
Even though chatting online is harmless, when in a relationship, we have to remember the other person's feelings. So here are some things to remember when in a relationship to take into account.
- Establish ground rules
- Put it all in the open. Tell what you're comfortable with. Set the boundaries, will your relationship be open to mingle with others or are you exclusive.
- Don't fight over small problems
- When you first start a new relationship, you'll be blinded with lust. As time progress, you'll start to notice the small things that both you. It's known, all couples are going to fight, but save it for the big issues. Is it really that serious that you fight because he leaves his glass on the counter instead of putting it in the sink? No, just talk in a calm manner about what's going on.
- Accept uncertainty
- There may be times in the relationship where you ask, "Do I still love him?" or "Is this what I really want?" This is perfectly normal. It will pass; however, if it doesn't, you should consider breaking up.
- If there are problems, talk about it
- If you see a problem arising in your relationship, the easiest thing you can do is talk about it. NOT FIGHT ABOUT IT! At time you may feel like you can't speak to your partner in the face. If so, get them on the phone. Do not leave it in a voice message, email, or text message. Continually bottling all your problems up will only assist in a break up. You both deserve better.
It is possible to maintain a great relationship that will last. Communication is the key to a relationship. If your partner tells you that something you are doing is a problem to your relationship, try to fix it. If you feel that their request is unfair, talk about it. If you cannot reach a middle ground, maybe this isn't the relationship for you.
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